As I talked about in Monday’s post, shame has been on my mind a whole lot lately, particularly, the shame that we as women allow ourselves to feel in relation to defying gender, societal or religious norms. I think sometimes we hold ourselves to an unrealistic and unfair standard and when we fail to meet it, we let shame creep in and diminish our self-worth.
A few months ago, I discovered the Guys We Fucked podcast and have been binge-listening to past episodes. The podcast is hosted by Corrine Fisher and Krystyna Hutchinson, two New York based comedians who decided to start an “Anti-Slut Shaming” podcast and interview past guys they had fucked. Not only do they interview guys they have fucked, they invite guests on with interesting, honest stories to tell. Corrine and Krystyna are attempting to remove the shame from “sexual exploration” (the term they use to replace “sluttiness”) and speak aloud things so many women are thinking.
Through the honest sharing of topics that range from; one night stands, rape fantasies, masturbation, open relationships, stripping, sex addiction, femesculation (a brilliant term Krystyna invented meaning feeling less like a woman), molestation, depression, suicide, transgenderism, polyamory, etc., the ladies create an open, safe forum to explore, without shame or embarrassment, experiences that many of us may be curious about, but feel ashamed or wrong for contemplating.
Some of my favorite episodes have been incredibly informative and insightful. One of the first I heard was “He Was 13 and You Were 5?” The male guest that day had been molested as a child, and was reflecting about how this affected his adolescent and adult relationships. I found his insight pretty fascinating. I think this is something that unfortunately, happens way too often, but is not often explored and talked about because of shame.
Another episode that I found informative was “Too Late for Plan B, Too Early for an Abortion?” The guest on this episode had an abortion using the abortion pill and described, in detail, her experience. Again, this is not something that is generally talked about for fear of shame. I thought it was incredibly brave of the guest to talk about her experience and could be helpful to anyone considering this as an option.
Episodes that I am looking forward to listening to are entitled: “How Did Being A Pimp Affect You Emotionally?” “Tim Curry Hit on Your Dad?” and “Did Your Wife Know You Were Gay?”
Corrine and Krystyna do inject humor and a lightness that is needed at times, but they also have created a platform for honest, open and intelligent rhetoric on a broad range of topics. They encourage truthful, empowering conversations and normalize women as sexual beings with varied preferences.
If this sounds interesting to you, check them out on SoundCloud or iTunes. I would love to know your thoughts on their podcast!