The Spiritual and the Silly

A few weeks ago, Ed & I sat down with mimosas, colored pens and sparkly stickers to discuss upcoming topics on our blog. A typical business meeting.


We hope you are up for a few changes, nothing too drastic. Our focus here will still be on our spiritual journey; where our path started and how it veered off, only to find a new direction.

However, we also want to introduce you to the other part of our lives; the silly.

Ed & I want to invite you in to the personal conversations we have with one another. Sometimes, we get DEEP, but most of the time, we are downright silly and hilarious. At least, we make each other laugh.

We find ourselves quoting both the Bible and Sex and the City in the same sentence. We talk about our chakras and chardonnay. We explore Buddhism and Beyonce. Were interested in Eastern religion and the fashion that goes along with it.

We hope it’s OK with you if we start sharing some of other interests here on the blog, as we continue to explore our spirituality.

Thank-you so much for joining us in the journey.

In spirituality and silliness,


I’d been looking for some inspiration on Friday’s blog and what direction to go in but I couldn’t come up with anything interesting.  When Angelina and I held our “business” meeting the other day, I wanted to get her feedback on what I should cover but we ended up a little buzzed and unable to concentrate.

I’ve done a lot of things with Angelina that I wouldn’t have done in the past.  One of the patterns I’ve grown up with and am now trying to break is believing that I am better than everyone else.  I attribute some of that to my religious upbringing.  When a person is brought up to believe that heaven is the ultimate goal and that person happens to be a perfectionist/motivated/anal, a relationship with God ends up becoming more of a contest rather than an organic process.

So with Spiritual Bahana I’d like to explore the areas of my life that I normally keep hidden in the deep recesses of my mind.

BTW, here’s a random picture of some beautiful lamps I took hanging in the restaurant. I’ve entitled it: Small Distractions.


Peace, Ed



Indie Pendee La La Movie Friday: Diary Of A Teen Age Girl

I have so much to say about this week’s choice for Indie Pendee La La Movie Friday but if I were to choose one word to describe the whole experience, I’d have to say it’s: uncomfortable.

Before I begin, I’d like to point out that I thought this would be a fitting movie for Spiritual Bahana since the voice is from a female perspective and about sexuality. What convinced me to go see it was the line at the end of the movie trailer: this is for all the girls when they have grown.  This lead me to believe it was going to be an innocent reflection on teenage sexuality from an older woman’s perspective.


There was nothing innocent about this movie.  With the small cast made up of well known actors such Kristin Wig and Alexander Skarsgard, I figured it would be emotionally dramatic and well presented.  Instead what I experienced was a movie that felt very much like barely legal kitty porn.  The movie’s main character, played by twenty – three year old actress Bel Powley, is a junior in high school who enjoys having sex.  But she enjoys having sex with her mother’s thirty something year old boyfriend.

I knew going into this movie that there’d be some controversial topics such as female sexuality and teen sex, but I didn’t expect to see it played out on screen. At one point, I wish I had bought a sign with the words: I’m gay I promise! because it felt really uncomfortable being a male in that theater.

The only scene I can stand by is when Minnie, the teen age girl, tries to find comfort from her mother only to find that she’s getting high with her friends and boyfriend.  It reminded me of when I realized that some parents – although adults – still act like teenagers themselves.

But that’s about it.

For this week’s La La movie…big thumbs down!




Chasing Out El Diablo: Part 2

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.  Charles R. Swindoll

After one week of budgeting, there’s really nothing to it – I just don’t go out.  Now that I have that down, I can start forming new habits around my new found freedom.   There was a time when it was really important to cultivate a false lifestyle; I wanted people to know that I made money.  Maybe what I should be doing now is getting used to the me that has finally evolved! Those outside voices – the media, friends, culture – that once had the power to dictate how I should be living no longer have a strong influence. When I think of this new life in those terms, it inspires me to downsize this life even more.

Today, life is different.  After recently ending a three year relationship, I’m not really interested in settling down any time soon.  I’ve also made peace with the fact that my job requires a lot of attention and as a result I’m not interested in too much responsibility outside of it – and that’s okay.  As for friends?  In the past, I’ve had so many superficial relationships built on image and status; as the saying goes, I can count all my friends on one hand.

Sooo, I’m praying that with all this new knowledge I’ll find myself more financially secure.   


Week 1 is down. I kicked off my detox with a 3 day juice cleanse. Day 1 was a breeze and appreciated. Day 2 was the toughest day to get through. I was psychologically craving food during stressful times and when others were eating. Day 3, I felt lighter and incredibly energetic!


Through my own chasing out of the devil, being aware of the thoughts that lead to the patterns that leads to bad habits has been enlightening. I notice that I want to resort back to old, unhealthy habits most during moments of stress or exhaustion.

I spent the whole weekend working at a Camp with my students. It was a wonderful, but tiring experience. I came home Sunday night and ate a healthy dinner, but thought about how much I would love a glass of wine. I was talking myself into it, saying in my head “you have worked hard all weekend, you deserve it.”

Fortunately, the next thought went something like, “you are only feeling this way because you are worn down and tired. You do not need a treat, you need some sleep.”

I ignored the bottles of wine in their rack in my kitchen, took a nice shower, diffused some essential oils and went to sleep early. I woke up feeling much more rested and proud.

I hope to continue to monitor, notice and analyze those type of thoughts and hopefully, set new patterns.

Hair In A Bun Friday: First We Reiki, then We Kiki!

“To keep the body in good health is a duty… otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear.” Buddah

On Friday night, November twenty-first, Angelina and I wrapped our hair in a bun together and started our week long vacation.  We kicked off the upcoming holiday by inviting her Reiki instructor over for the night in order to regain focus on our spiritual health.  I firmly believe that some illnesses have a root cause in past trauma or unresolved issues; so when the opportunity arose to have my first chakra aligned, I jumped at the chance.

We held our session in the living room of Angelina’s Earthy abode.  Her walls are painted an Earth tone hue; the environment is lightly decorated with spiritual symbols and there’s always a slight hint of sage in the air – it’s a great environment for recollection. I won’t go into the details of the session since she already spoke about here experience in a past blog.

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After all was said and done and our healer left, we opened a bottle of wine and discussed the benefits of internal health.  After a couple of glasses, we laughed endlessly after we changed the the pronounciation from rey-ki, to riki; it was our way of going from Spiritual Sisters to Scissor Sisters (but not the kind of scissor sisters you’re thinking of).

Happy Thanksgiving to our fellow bloggers!


Hair In A Bun Day Friday: Split Personality or Split Ends?

“We must free ourselves of the hope that the sea will ever rest. We must learn to sail in high winds.” Aristotle Onassis

This was a short week due to the Veteran’s Day Holiday and to be honest, it couldn’t have come at a better time.  Angelina and I had “daaaays” off this week which allowed us to refresh our tired minds and bodies.  People often say that teachers get way too many breaks but truthfully teaching and counseling are very draining emotionally, spiritually as well as physically.  We spend most of the work day acting like another person it’s enough to believe in the idea of having a split personality.

We decided to get our feet done and drink a couple of Sangrias at our favorite nail place. Smile!


When I was younger I remember my mom would come home Friday afternoon, after a long work week and tell us kids, “don’t even ask me to go anywhere because all I’m going to do this weekend is stay in my pajamas and read.”

Today, I completely get what my mom was feeling.

One of the hard parts about time off is having to go back to work. I’m sure all of us enjoy some aspect of our job but by Friday, all I want to do is take out the imaginary pencil from my loosely fitted bun and sit on the sofa like J. Lo in On the 6.

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When I come home from work, I take a shower, put on a pair of loosely fitted shorts and T shirt and imagine myself as Jennifer.  Since Friday is usually a no shampoo hair day, I run my fingers through it as I massage my scalp.  Then I slowly brush it to the side of my shoulder and work my fingers to the end; I clip the ends with my fingers only to find that I have split ends.

It’s not something I want to deal with at the moment so I go into my room and shut the door.  Reality can wait until Saturday when I’m free as a bird.



Hair In A Bun Day Friday: God As Accessory

“Accessories are a girl’s best friend.” Author Unknown

Sometimes during the work week, I get a little too confident with all the successes I’ve had and by Friday I take the imaginary scrunchie out of my hair and use it as a accessory on my wrist.


By the end of the work week, I’m so spent after all the giving, I’m left depleted.  That’s when I realize I have to reset myself by closing up shop, canceling some appointments, and allowing myself to reconnect with the one true scrunchie that holds all things together.

My sister Angelina and I both agree on waking up really early Saturday morning, taking time for ourselves in prayer or meditation, and then having the wonderful option of going back to bed: no early morning traffic, no deadlines – just the bed and silence.

Hoping all our sisters take time this weekend to regroup.


Hair In A Bun Day Friday! The Premiere

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.” Brene Brown

Hair In A Bun Day Friday is a day when every female laborer, professional, CEO, millionaire or billionaire can tie up her hair in a loosely fitted bun – held together with only a pencil – so that she may finish the work week with whatever energy she has left.

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While I was working a full time job and attending graduate school at night, I had a friend by the name of Adriane who was doing the same.  Even though she had a crazy schedule, she always came to work fresh and crisp first thing in the morning.  By Friday, it was a different story.  Instead of her usual platforms and cute purses, she’d come with a pair of jeans, tennis shoes, polo shirt, no make-up and her hair tied up in a loosely fitted bun.  It was as if all her energy for the week had been spent and all she could manage was to roll out of bed, put on some clothes and rush to work.

Every Friday I feel like Adriane.  As a teacher, I spend the week giving, asking and taking – sometimes it’s all too much.  When the work week is over, I get in my car, undo my faux bun and drive away.  As I’m driving, I have one hand on the steering wheel, while the other holds up my imaginary long hair that allows the cool breeze to sweep my neck.  This very simple act helps me to process the week’s stress filled events.

Here’s a selfie I sent to my sister Angelina; she responded by saying, “take a moment.”



…and I did.

Love and peace to all my hair in a bun sisters.

We want to hear from all of our sisters! We all want to stay positive and be supportive, but let’s face it, sometimes we need to vent. Tell us what contributed to your hair being in a bun this Friday?