Mantra Monday-“I Have the Right to Be Here”

I have been all about my chakras lately.

Well, for quite some time now. I elusively heard that term tossed about before, but never quite had an understanding of these esoteric, invisible, spinning energy centers within the celestial body that connected with physical and emotional issues. If this sounds crazy and a little too far out for you, I understand. I felt the same way, at first. Until I realized how much they made sense and I could see the connections for myself. I begin to identify issues I had with some of my chakras and when I put my focus on working through them, amazing things begin to occur.

This article is a great introduction to the chakras. In the next seven weeks, I decided to devote my beginners yoga class to working through each of the chakras through yoga poses and will share them here, with mantras. The first is the root chakra.

The root chakra is located at the base of the spine and is associated with your ability to be grounded and secure. Fear, abandonment and a loss of security can throw the root chakra off balance and leave one feeling as though they do not have a safe, secure place in this world. You can answer the questions at the end of this article, to explore if your root chakra is blocked.

I always thought my root chakra was pretty stable and balanced, until I got a new job a few months ago.

In my new position, I felt myself second guessing my decisions and experience. I felt my confidence waning and wondered if I had a right to even be in this position.

I recognized what was going on a few weeks into the new job, and started asserting my right to be there. When I started having doubtful and fearful feelings, I would feel my feet under the ground beneath me sink into the earth growing roots into my new position and recite to myself “I have the right to be here.”

I Have the Right to be Here

I realized big life changes throw me off my stable ground and when something is new to me, it shakes my confidence. I feel nervous, I worry about asking for help, I feel uncomfortable and constantly worry if I am doing the right thing. I need to ground myself to new situations better and remember that my experience and skills gives me the right to be there.

Mountain pose (Tadasana) is my favorite way to assert this right. This powerful pose is the foundation for any standing pose in my yoga practice. I feel unshakeable in this pose. As the sides of my feet line up with the sides of my mat, I feel balanced with the earth. As I spread out my toes to connect to ground I feel the roots take hold. As I engage my core and relax my shoulders, I feel both powerful and peaceful at the same time. And, I remember, I HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE HERE.

Mantra Monday: You Are So Worth Loving

you are so worth loving

You are so worth loving.

Did you know that? Did you forget it somewhere along your journey? Have you lost hope that it’s true? There have definitely been times in my life when I did not believe I was worth loving, or not as much as I used to be.

I had a few conversations this week that showed me I am not the only one who has felt this way. I was able to share and connect with some important women in my life who have also felt unworthy to be loved. I am sure men feel this way, as well, but I think this is particularly a problem for women. Particularly, around the experiences we have had that have caused SHAME, and subsequently translating into feelings of diminished worth and an overall “no-good-ness.”

Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we let other people do this to us? Why do we let societal expectations, gender roles and religious norms dictate the way we feel? As logical, intelligent beings, we often realize that these thought processes are harmful, but as emotional beings, all those expectations (and failing to meet them) can be extremely hurtful and led to feelings of unworthiness.

Other people’s stories of diminished worth have been on my mind and heart and led me to reflect on times I have also allowed my own light to dim. I think about times when my SHAME has held me back from speaking up when I needed to, held me back from moving forward in relationships, career and personal growth, led me to make destructive, unhealthy choices because I was “no-good” anyways.

The time in my own life when I felt the most SHAME was after my divorce. I married far too young and was a divorcee at the age of 26. I was oh, so embarrassed that my poor choices were on display for everyone to see. I was ashamed of my lack of good judgment. I was afraid that people would think I did not hold marriage sacred. I was worried that I would never love again or be worth of love.

Slowly, I begin to heal and re-build up my worth. I learned from my mistakes and caught myself before I made them in future relationships. I got real, ugly, gut-wrenching, in-my-own-face-honest with myself about my own pitfalls and hang ups and starting working through them. I meditated, cried, journaled and continued to call myself on my own bullshit.

I realized I was still worth loving.

And, so are YOU.