Mantra Monday: “Write A New Story”

I have been working my way through Rock Your Bliss’ 7 Weeks to Bliss program. It’s a coaching program led by two dynamic ladies (Mary Beth La Rue & Jacki Carr) who lead you through activities and work on the chakra system. They are leading the program again this summer and I would highly recommend it! You can sign up by clicking here.

This week’s topic is “SEE.” This relates to the 6th third eye chakra and our lens to the outside world. We are being challenged to catch our habitual thoughts (or “stories”) and work on not being so attached to them. On our weekly call with Mary Beth & Jacki, we were encouraged to take note of what our stories are and analyze if they are truly serving us.

We constantly create “stories” for ourselves. We have a vision of who we are, what we do and why we do it. We may even have stories for other people, situations and places.

I have been catching myself doing this, a lot. I noticed there are times when I won’t speak up about something because I already created the conversation and response in my head and figure there is no point. I don’t give myself the space to speak up and I don’t give the other person the opportunity to hear me, respond or understand my viewpoint.

I have been thinking about how powerful the words “I AM” are and how everything that comes after them creates my reality.

Some of my most common stories are “I AM too busy,” “I AM overwhelmed” or “I AM out of time.” These stories cause me to feel overwhelmed, rushed, panicked, frustrated and completely thrown off if something unexpected comes up. I realized by living in these stories, I set myself up for constantly feeling like a failure, as though what I did accomplish that day was not enough.

I decided to write a new story. I am trying to catch myself when I begin to recite some of those stories above and replace them with “I AM enough.” I do not need to accomplish everything on my to-do list (now being called my “get to-do list” as another bliss crafter suggested on the call) and in fact, I need to stop making it so unrealistically ambitious. I am not defined by how many boxes I get to check or how tired I am at the end of the day.

I encourage you to take note of what stories you are creating for yourself and give you the permission to write a new one. What are some of your habitual thoughts?

write a new story

Mantra Monday: “I Speak My Truth Freely”

This has been the chakra I have (and continue to) the most active work with. It does not come naturally for me to speak my truth, but with very mindful intentions, I am slowly getting there.
 How do you speak your truth? 

Mantra Monday: “I Allow Myself to be Loved.”

The chakras continue to become more tangible and meaningful as life unfolds. As I focus on the heart chakra and deepening meaningful connections with others, I am also reminded of what throws the heart chakra off balance most: GRIEF.

It’s hard to make to adulthood without experiencing some form of grief or loss. This can of course be the physical loss of a loved one, but it does not always have to be defined simply in terms of someone we love passing away. It can be the loss of a relationship, friendship or dream. Loss and the subsequent grief are apart of the human journey.

The heart chakra that has not recovered or grown calloused from these experiences can present itself as untrustworthy of others, closed off or too clingy. It can be difficult, but it is so important to let others support us in those moments of grief and continue to open our hearts up to new relationships, concepts and wonder. After a loss, it can be tempting to close ourselves down and not allow hurt to enter into our hearts again. But, we also close ourselves off to new beginnings, connections and experiences.

I was so very fortunate to have a strong support system after losing my father to a homicide. His death was sudden and unexpected. There was nothing in place for a funeral and I had to figure out a whole mess of things, quickly. But, I did not have to do it alone. I had family and close friends that rallied around me for support. I had people step up and take care of things without being asked. I had friends, co-workers and people I had not even been in contact with recently, send support, love and even money to help me bury my dad.

I will never ever forget that.

I lost my dad in an awful manner and I could have easily fell down a hole of hate and anger. But, humanity did not let me. They made it impossible to focus on the ugliness because they kept showing up with beauty.

Ed lost his dad this past week. He is now facing his own journey of grief and loss and I just hope I can show him the love and support he deserves. I took this picture at the coffee shop we met up at a few days after his dad passed, to start planning his funeral. We sat and cried. We talked about my dad. We talked about his dad. We allowed one another to grieve and be supported.

I think it was no accident that I ordered a matcha latte and the barista served it with a heart swirl. Green is the color associated with the heart chakra and this picture will now serve as a reminder to always love and allow myself to love.

heart chakra

Mantra Monday: “I Honor the Power Within Me”

This week I focused on my solar plexus chakra. This chakra is located around the navel area and is associated with confidence, empowerment and self-assurance. The solar plexus chakra is mostly thrown off balance by SHAME. This can leave one feeling doubtful, without a strong sense of self or lacking in assurance. On a physical level, this can produce digestive issues, problems with the liver or ulcers.

solar plexus

This is one of my stronger, balanced chakras, but it has not always been that way. I think as a woman, shame can be a stronger force. It is not always encouraged or taught to speak up for yourself or feel confident in who you are. I feel it is almost discouraged at times to feel good about yourself and it’s automatic to downplay or refute compliments.

mean girls I have worked hard to re-train my brain and gut instincts to know that I am enough. I am confident and happy with who I am. I have work to do still and I will always try to improve, but I am OK with being imperfect. I am confident in myself and continue to honor the power within me.

I chose Dancer’s pose for the solar plexus chakra. This pose looks very pretty and effortless, but it takes strength and balance. The standing foot needs to be firmly ground into the earth. You keep the hips level, while lifting up the foot. It is a deep backbend and chest opener, while the shoulders, head and mind stay relaxed. I feel this a wonderful metaphor for what it’s like to be a woman. It can be a huge balancing act of putting forth an effortless, beautiful image, while exuding great amounts of strength and balance behind the scenes.

I Honor the Power Within Me This week can you practice honoring the power within you? Can you remind yourself that you are enough? Can you unapologetically embody our strengths, flaws and confidence?

Honor the power within you.

Mantra Monday: “I Allow Myself to Feel Pleasure”

This past week’s focus was on the Sacral Chakra. The Sacral Chakra is associated with pleasure, creativity and sexual energy. When this chakra is too closed, there can be repression, suppression of creativity, a sense of being out of touch with sexuality or a denial of pleasure. This chakra can also be too open and one can be overly sexual and too free in their creativity, without the balance of being grounded to reality.

I find most of the time, my sacral chakra is pretty balanced, but can be knocked off and closed down when I am feeling tense and putting too much pressure on myself. The main culprit that attacks this chakra is guilt.

From a woman’s perspective, I think women particularly have a hard time keeping this chakra in balance. Generally speaking, I think guilt can often creep in when we want to give ourselves time to experience pleasure and explore our own creativity.

Personally, I struggle with allowing time to do things completely for myself. I feel GUILTY when I want to take a day alone, when I want to not talk to my family and would rather attend a yoga class (alone), get a massage or simply read in bed.

However, I have found that those moments alone to basque in simple pleasures or let my creativity flow through journaling or blogging keep me balanced and calm. When I have denied myself these joys for too long, I feel tense, frustrated and easily irritable.

One of my absolute favorite yoga poses is specially for this chakra. It is Goddess pose, which is done by turning the corners of the feet in opposing directions and sinking down into the hips, with a stable pelvis. Once the legs feel solid, various options can be taken with the arms. I like moving my arms around sometimes and letting the creative energy flow around my body, or settling in to a mudra with my hands.

I Allow Myself to Feel Pleasure This pose does have a feminine flair. It is truly opening to the sacral chakra (which is on located in the lower abdomen) and takes solid strength in the hips and groin. It can look very pretty, but it is also a very strong pose that takes focus, stability and strength. I believe this describes women beautifully. I love how solid I feel in those pose, yet free to move and flow.

What keeps your creativity, sexuality or pleasure from freely flowing?

Mantra Monday-“I Have the Right to Be Here”

I have been all about my chakras lately.

Well, for quite some time now. I elusively heard that term tossed about before, but never quite had an understanding of these esoteric, invisible, spinning energy centers within the celestial body that connected with physical and emotional issues. If this sounds crazy and a little too far out for you, I understand. I felt the same way, at first. Until I realized how much they made sense and I could see the connections for myself. I begin to identify issues I had with some of my chakras and when I put my focus on working through them, amazing things begin to occur.

This article is a great introduction to the chakras. In the next seven weeks, I decided to devote my beginners yoga class to working through each of the chakras through yoga poses and will share them here, with mantras. The first is the root chakra.

The root chakra is located at the base of the spine and is associated with your ability to be grounded and secure. Fear, abandonment and a loss of security can throw the root chakra off balance and leave one feeling as though they do not have a safe, secure place in this world. You can answer the questions at the end of this article, to explore if your root chakra is blocked.

I always thought my root chakra was pretty stable and balanced, until I got a new job a few months ago.

In my new position, I felt myself second guessing my decisions and experience. I felt my confidence waning and wondered if I had a right to even be in this position.

I recognized what was going on a few weeks into the new job, and started asserting my right to be there. When I started having doubtful and fearful feelings, I would feel my feet under the ground beneath me sink into the earth growing roots into my new position and recite to myself “I have the right to be here.”

I Have the Right to be Here

I realized big life changes throw me off my stable ground and when something is new to me, it shakes my confidence. I feel nervous, I worry about asking for help, I feel uncomfortable and constantly worry if I am doing the right thing. I need to ground myself to new situations better and remember that my experience and skills gives me the right to be there.

Mountain pose (Tadasana) is my favorite way to assert this right. This powerful pose is the foundation for any standing pose in my yoga practice. I feel unshakeable in this pose. As the sides of my feet line up with the sides of my mat, I feel balanced with the earth. As I spread out my toes to connect to ground I feel the roots take hold. As I engage my core and relax my shoulders, I feel both powerful and peaceful at the same time. And, I remember, I HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE HERE.

Mantra Monday “I Will Remember to Laugh”

I just finished my 21 day chakra cleanse. I took time to study and focus on each chakra for 3 days each. I researched my chakras and read as much as I could. I tried to pair each one with essential oils, yoga poses and healing crystals and stones. I tried to be intentional and honest with myself. I felt a lot of healing took place.

While researching chakras, I found the picture below and just had to laugh. It helped me to remember that although this work is transformative and revealing, it does not have to be so serious. I cannot find who to credit for this picture, but if you know, please tell me. That person definitely deserves some props.

I Will Remember to Laugh

When I get wrapped up in something, I tend to take it too serious. Almost to the point of anxious obsession which inevitably leads to burnout. This picture was sent to me to remind me not to get so caught up in my spiritual work that I forget to laugh at myself once in a while. My work also needs to involve not taking myself so dang serious and remembering that there is also healing in flexibility, flaws and mistakes.

I am usually pretty good about finding humor in most situations. I laugh at myself pretty often, but do not always apply that to my spiritual journey. I feel as though I am being lead to find more fun and play in this area of my life.

What makes you laugh?