In our previous post On Sisterhood, we discussed how important sisters have been in our development and how we have been blessed by sisters both given to us by our parents and given to us by God. One of my daily prayers and desires is to be a good big sister. I feel very fortunate to be in the position where I am the oldest of four, besides by two sisters, I also have one younger brother. I often reflect and question if I am being a good example, if I am giving enough, have I been there when I needed to be? In these reflections, I often find I am have been coming up short and it is a great reminder to not take my siblings for granted. I also find myself in the unique and fortunate position to be somewhat of a big sister in my work capacity. I work as a high school counselor and have found myself drawn to this career because of my desire to help others. Although this is a huge responsibility that I often feel sorely under qualified for, it is also an amazing privilege and I am so grateful that I have the opportunity to help out the next generation of women and quasi-little sisters. In my position, I have talked with some girls about anything and everything. I respect their confidentiality, and because of this, they often share things with me that they have not told anyone else. If appropriate and helpful, I also tell them things about myself, if it can help their situation. I have shared with them my struggles with anxiety, and how I have (and am) working through them. I share about the murder of my father, and the up and down relationship we had through his life. I share about growing up with little money, but not letting this situation define me. I tell them all about my dashed dreams of being a professional break dancer, my love for theater in high school, alllll about the college application process and what it was like to attend a university and work full-time. I try to be as open as possible, when it can be of a benefit to them. Sometimes, it is hard to tell, but I do hope I am making a positive difference. My commitment to my little sisters also extends to being the Co-Advisor to our schools Peer Leader Program, the advisor for the Dance Team and the Vegan/Vegetarian club. My life and schedule are certainly full, and although it can be tiring, stressful and hectic, I feel it is incredibly important to give my time to have a (hopefully) positive impact on this future generation. There are many, many, proud and rewarding moments being a big sister. For example, seeing one of my Peer Leaders help out another student in distress, or talking to even younger sisters (i.e.-freshmen) about the importance of representing yourself respectfully. Also, seeing my Dance Team girls KILL it in their Beyonce performance, and all of their hard work paying off. I do not take the position I am in for granted. I have been given so much in my life and have truly been blessed. It is the least I can do to try to pass that on to others. (PS-I try to help the boys, too.) In love and sisterhood, Angelina
“A wise woman wishes to be no one’s enemy; a wise woman refuses to be anyone’s victim.” Maya Angelou
A visual presentation of the role women have played in helping me connect with the feminine spirit:
Sisters of the World
Sister friends from long ago
Love and peace to all my sister friends, past, present and future.